Improve Your Relationship - Ten Ways To Fall In Love Again!
Relationship Advice. Ten ways that you can improve your romantic relationship and come closer to your partner. Practical tips that really work!
Our romantic relationships have the potential to bring us great
happiness but can also be the source of great pain and suffering. At
the start of a relationship we fall ‘head over heals' in love and it
seems that our dream has come true. Unfortunately these joyous feelings
can fade and then we struggle to feel love for our partner. So how can
we re-discover those wonderful feelings that we experienced at the
start of the relationships?
Here are ten things you can do that will improve your
relationship and will allow you to fall in love with your partner all
over again!
1. Relationship difficulties may be painful but they represent the
best chance you and your partner have to heal your insecurities and
build a better relationship. Within each problem is an issue that both
of you have, that is driving you apart - try to see problems as
opportunities for improving the relationship. The trick is to find out
what the emotional issue is at the heart of the problem.
2. Whenever you feel emotional pain in a relationship, resist the
temptation to move away from your partner. This is the very time you
need each other. Take courage and move towards your partner both
physically and emotionally.
3. Communication about feelings and fears is what heals
relationships. Always make this your objective. Try to find out what
your partner is feeling. Expressing your own feelings with honesty and
sensitivity will encourage your partner to do the same. Remember even
bad behaviour is a form of communication!
4. Nobody can make you feeling anything that you are not already feeling subconsciously.
It is hidden and unhealed emotional pain that is triggered by your
partner's behaviour. Be willing to gain emotional awareness, take
responsibility and heal these insecurities. As Ghandi said - ‘be the
change you want to see in the world" - the same applies in our
relationships.
5. Appreciate your partner for all their strengths, gifts and beauty
- tell them and show them how much you love them. This is what you did
when you fell in love with them, and it will work throughout your
relationship. There is no reason that the ‘Honeymoon' stage of a
relationship cannot last forever.
6. If you feel let down by your partner or feel that they are not
giving you something important in the relationship, give them exactly
the thing you are lacking. Almost magically they will then give you the same thing back!
7. Sex can be a beautiful celebration of love in a relationship -
this is why we call it making love! Allow sex to move from a purely
physical experience to one that is full of shared emotion - pour love
into your partner as you have sex and make strong eye contact. If you
have a spiritual belief, you can take sex to the highest Tantric level
of physical, emotional and spiritual connection, where it feel like you
become one with your partner.
8. If you have had a row, apologise for any of your own bad
behaviour and recognise that your partner will also be feeling bad.
Move towards them, forgive and re-connect as soon as you can. Start the
meaningful communication about what lies at the heart of the argument.
9. If you are having really big problems in your relationship and
you believe in a higher or spiritual power, then ask for help and
guidance. In this way you will find the inspiration to work through the
most tragic or painful situations. If you do not have a spiritual or
religious belief , ask for help from your higher or intuitive mind.
10. Relationships fail because we allow a distance to appear between
us and our partner. What we give in a relationship is what we receive.
How much are you unconditionally giving to your partner? Give to your
partner without any expectation of receiving and you will soon find
that the joy and love returns to the relationship.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Peter Granger is an acclaimed relationship counsellor and a Psychology of Vision Trainer (an organisation that specialises in helping people have happier and more fulfilled relationships. You can find lots more advice and tips about love, romance and relationships on his website www.iloveyouloveme.com
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